“It would be a pity for mom if I died.” Then the parents understood

Nearly 40 percent of teenagers were challenged on the web, every fourth experienced ridicule, and every fifth humiliation – according to research on peer cyberbullying. Wanessa 16-year-old today told us about her terrible experiences.

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16 -year -old Waness from kindergarten came to all competitions – acting and music. She loved to perform and she was doing well. Now he is fighting for this good energy she had in her. The girl told the reporters of “Poland and the world” the history of the years of peer violence. It started in the second grade of primary school, and the worst things happened when nobody was looking.

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– The girls spoke to me in the cloakroom at PE and told me such things that I didn't want to go to school. They told me to kill myself, that they would like to see my funeral – reports the girl.

A group of girls oppressed her, and Wanessa's well -being was getting worse. – When I got up in the morning, I immediately felt bad. My stomach ached, I asked my mother not to go there again, but the turnout was falling, so I had to be there – he says.

– When I was in class, my stomach just squeezed. I had to go to the toilet where I cried and called my mother, I asked her to take me from there – he adds.

The situation of Wanessa began to deteriorate

When the children began to use smartphones and messengers in the sixth grade, oppressing the girl moved to the internet. There, adults had no admission, and the teasing also lasted after school.

– We had a group and from time to time I was excluded from it, as if they were throwing me out of this group and wrote about me, or if there were some trips, they created a group on which I was not. They wrote that they would destroy my life. Once a girl wrote to me that she would attach me to the tracks and she will watch a train passing me – recalls the 16 -year -old.

Sometimes someone sent her a record from what they write about her. Sometimes she showed it to her parents, more often she just locked herself in the room and suffered alone. Her mother tried to talk to teachers, but usually ended with assuring that nothing bad was happening in the classroom.

At the end of the seventh grade, Wanessa's parents understood how serious the situation was. – When we went to the meadow, watching the falling stars, we lay in three, we looked into the sky and then we heard the words from my daughter: “It would be a pity for mom if I died, because I wouldn't see more stars anymore,” says Mother Wanessa, Mrs. Dagmara.

The girl underwent one -year psychotherapy, her well -being improved. – Now I get along with all the class, I like everyone in the classroom and I have my friend who supports me in everything – reports Wanessa.

The growing problem of peer violence

The study “Teenagers 3.0” conducted by the National Research Institute NASK shows that almost 38.9 percent of teenagers were challenged on the network, 24.3 percent of respondents experienced ridicule and 22.2 percent of humiliation.

– Around 2005-2006, we conducted the first research in Poland about violence on the Internet and then it seemed to us that this is a new phenomenon- admits Łukasz Wojtasik from the Foundation We give children strength. – We called them cyberbullying, but in time we notice that this is one form of violence: this is peer violence – he adds.

However, this violence can intensify this violence, stretch in time, and the end of lessons no longer means harassment. It usually goes on with many witnesses. – Every entry, every comment, each photo will see a lot of people and the more severe and popular it is, the more it gets out of control – notes Łukasz Wojtasik.

The Ministry of National Education is to take up the topic of peer violence

The problem was noticed by the Ministry of National Education and ensures that elements of counteracting peer violence, as well as its online form, are to be found in the subject – health education from September.

– Building healthy interpersonal relationships, also in the family, but also in the school community, this will definitely be about health education: empathy, understanding for various kinds of otherness – announces a spokesman Men Piotr Otrębski.

However, there is a problem, because the object will be optional. – We hope and we believe that as many pupils as possible will benefit from health education, and the problem we are talking about today is the best proof that health education is simply very much needed, because it responds to real threats – argues Piotr Otrębski.

In the current class of Wanessa there is no consent for hate. This slowly adds her boldness, although the memories of primary school resemble heavy luggage, with which he has to go through life.

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